I just wrote this in response to someone who was complaining that all people do in the medical groups on Facebook is whine about their health problems. (Well, duh, it is a medical support group…)

I personally rarely post anything about my health problems (mostly because there are too many so it would get overwhelming, hence why I write a secret blog to vent), but I also respect that some people do need to let of steam…

This is what I wrote in response:

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We have a hard enough time dealing with people who don’t understand what we go through, we shouldn’t be wasting time being hard on each other.

If someone people wants to vent and complain online, fine, let them. Sometimes people need to do that to help them get through this, and it’s terrible this author is being so mean about it. I personally don’t vent much about myself—in fact, I rarely post any of my illnesses or hospitalizations on Facebook—but that’s because I’m blessed to have a good support system around me, but not everyone is so lucky. We *all* have days where we feel ‘poor me’, and frankly we’re allowed to feel that way from time to time given the severity of our medical diagnoses .

If someone is feeling ‘poor me’ all of the time, then that person has *depression* which means the person needs *treatment* and not for people to be mean to them ‘you whine all the time’. It’s normal for people to go through periods of depression when struggling with a major illness, we should all see it for what it is and have compassion. There are some people in my life who have shown time and again that they do not have compassion for me or what I’ve been through, so I communicate with them as little as possible. God knows we struggle enough with our illnesses and the frustrations of dealing with the medical system, we don’t need cruel and insensitive comments on top of it. Unfortunately, most people do not know what it’s like until they become very ill themselves…